Daily InspirationToday, embrace all mistakes as learning experiences, rather than as expressions of your inadequacy. Making it okay to fail opens the door to loving action. Failure becomes just another learning experience when it does not define your worth or adequacy. By Dr. Margaret Paul
"The inner bonding work has completely changed my life and my relationship for the better. My husband and I went from a relationship that was surely headed for divorce (or misery) to the most fulfilling and connected relationship I have ever experienced! (More than I ever even imagined was possible.) We are now able to communicate freely and openly about all areas of our life, money, emotions, sex. We both feel free to relate to each other openly without fear of the other's reaction."
"I have been dieting my whole entire life, fighting the ups and downs of using food to deal with loneliness, stress, and grief. If I felt empty, I used it to fill up the empty spaces. If I felt stress, I used food to calm down. If I felt grief, I used food for comfort. Heck, I used food to celebrate as well. I then found it necessary to judge myself as a weak human being because I had fallen off the “diet” wagon again. I had one particularly potent discussion with Margaret when I said “but I NEED sugar” and Margaret asked me to replace the word sugar with love. “but I NEED love”, I said, and “ah” I got it in that instant, I never needed the sugar, I had made sugar my form of attainable love. I thought before that I could only get love from another person. I had not yet learned the powerful Inner Bonding process that taught me how to bring love to my Inner Child and give myself what I really needed, love. So each time I found myself reaching for my favorite peanut m & m’s, or some other sweet of choice, I would stop and ask myself what I needed, and most assuredly it was love. I found how the real thing, love, satisfies in ways that no other addictive substance could satisfy. Love is what heals, helps ground me, gives me a sense of well-being. As I practiced Inner Bonding, my cravings disappeared. I have love in abundance and love to share. I have lost 20 pounds without a single day of dieting, and am sure the rest will follow, and I will never have to diet again. I can just ask my body what it needs, and it has all the answers….Spirit provides all the love I’ve ever wanted or needed and food is no longer used as its substitute."
"I'm 63 years old and was obsessed with dieting from the age of 19. When in my 30s I realized that diets don't work, I searched for better answers. I found some help through OA and a number of very good books and authors. For the last several years, I've worked with a therapist who is dedicated to the Overcoming Overeating approach, which I have found very helpful. I've become much more gentle to myself.
"Having thoroughly examined many approaches to my addictions, I believe that your words are beginning to put in place some critical missing pieces. The concepts of self-abandonment and self-love that you delineate really speak to me."
I've finished the reading of the 12-week Inner Bonding e course on relationship last week. I've just read both the "article" of wk-12 over again and "what is love" and it’s so heart opening for me and so beautiful, tears of gratitude are coming down my skin. I'm so grateful to you for sharing your love and letting God through in every single word you write here. I'm so grateful that my prayer came though and led me to you and your teachings Margaret. And I'm grateful to my Self making Inner Bonding my priority no 1.
I've spent around USD 100,000 on personal development for the last 6 years. I've been in workshops all over the world. I've read several hundred books on spirituality. I've listen to and have watched amounts of audio/video spiritual teachings. These years and experiences have given me a lot of growth, but one essential part has been missing. None of these experiences have even been close to guiding me home to my Self in the way you and your work have. This has been the missing link for me. And it is so complementary to the Tantra work I have been doing for the last year. When I write these words my heart aches, it feels overwhelming, it’s beyond words, but you know better than anybody that feeling when the heart is about to explode in pure gratitude, thank you so much Margaret, thank you God!
"I have to tell you that my husband and I are not living together and have filed for a legal separation BUT we started doing the relationship course when I received the 12 weeks of the toolbox. We've done the first 3 weeks already and both of us are getting a lot out of it. After several years and more than $10,000 of what I now call "thera-chat", we have finally found something helpful! So thank you for making this material available!"
"Inner Bonding has improved our relationship and our parenting, by giving each of us the tools to recognize, understand, and move beyond power struggles. As a result, we are each able to stay in a deeply loving place more and more continuously, and we bounce back much quicker if either or both of us goes into a wounded place. It's great that we both practice IB as we can get feedback from each other and can enjoy deep learning and spiritual growth together."
Emily Agnew and Duke Duchscherer
Aloneness is a very painful feeling that results from the disconnection with ourselves and a source of spiritual Guidance. Inner Bonding is a powerful process for healing this disconnection, thus healing aloneness. When we are inwardly and spiritually connected, we can be alone without feeling alone.
NNER BONDING is a process that leads to loving yourself through teaching you how to take 100% responsibility for your own feelings and needs. Self-abandonment is the core issue behind anxiety, depression, anger, addictions, relationship problems, and parenting problems. Self-abandonment leads to feeling like a victim, while Inner Bonding leads to emotional freedom and personal empowerment.
Inner Bonding was created in 1988 by Dr. Margaret Paul and Dr. Erika
Chopich. INNER BONDING is a transformational six-step spiritual pathway
that creates a powerful connection with your core Self and your Higher
Guidance. This connection enables you to access truth and love, giving
you the power to take loving action for yourself and with others. INNER
BONDING leads to healing core shame, anger and pain, opening the door
to the sacred privilege of expressing your love and gifts upon the
planet. Through books, lectures, weekend workshops, 5-day intensive
individual and couples retreats, groups and individual work, INNER
BONDING has helped thousands of people throughout the world heal their
aloneness, their relationships, and move into personal power.
The latest book on the Inner Bonding process is Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? The following, from the Introduction to that book, is by Neale Donald Walsch, author of the Conversations With God series.
"Here, in the treasure that you now hold in your hands, is a method for recreating yourself as a powerful, spiritually connected, loving adult self, capable of taking personal responsibility for your own feelings and behaviors. This book offers you a process through which you may do that. It also contains a powerful method for healing relationship and family conflict, as well as for healing self-destructive and addictive behavior. I am very excited about this material. It takes the truths found in Conversations with God and other of the newest wisdom literature, and renders them functional in everyday life. Anything that takes a huge wisdom and turns it into a practical tool is a treasure indeed. It is one thing to behold the wisdom and quite another to be able to use it. Margaret Paul has for over a dozen years been working with, and teaching to others, a process which allow people to do just that. Now everything you could want to know about that process, and the eternal truths which underlie it, has been placed in a book. This book. This marvelous gift that that has come to be placed before your eyes."
- Neale Donald Walsch, Author
From the foreward of Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? " Would you think me crazy if I said there was a single process that could solve all the issues with which we as human beings struggle? Over the years, I begin noticing a common denominator in all these problems and came to the conclusion that there is only one issue: humankind's lack of experience in feeling our Divine self and our innate connection with the Divine. All other issues stem from this. Within the pages of this enlightened yet practical book, we are taught a most loving process [that] will take you on a life-changing journey down a path full of awakenings, tears, compassion, reunion, joy and peace. This path, in reference to our divinity, is one seldom even thought about, much less explored.
-Lindsay Wagner, actress, author, humanitarian
"Margaret Paul has written a powerful book that explores one of the most significant relationships of all - our relationship with God. She creatively teaches us the value of stepping into a new spiritual paradigm - into love and trust of self, others and God."
-Jack Canfield, co-author, Chicken Soup for the Soul; Chicken Soup for the Christian Soul
"Margaret Paul is an insightful and profound teacher. She skillfully helps us to explore, heal and deepen our relationship with God."
-Barbara De Andelis, PH.D. author, Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know
"Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? is a treasure chest full of gifts which provide the essential tools for achieving inner peace, joy and fulfillment. A glorious book!"
-John Gray author, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
"Margaret's latest book, "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" is a powerful, effective method for learning to love ourselves at the deepest spiritual level so that we can love others fully."
-Gay Hendricks, PH.D. and Kathlyn Hendricks, PH.D. authors Conscious Loving and The Conscious Heart